School Visit

I felt privileged recently to attend my son’s school and college, Inscape House ‘together trust’ situated in Cheadle, Manchester to speak to other parents about my book. It felt like five minutes ago since I was in their position, with a child who had autism. 

The teachers had set up in the café which my son had worked in to gain valuable work experience.  They gave me a lovely welcome with refreshments. I recognised a few of the staff and they all asked how he was getting on.  It was great to catch up and show them some photos of him.

For me personally, this was not only an opportunity to be back at the school but to have the chance to speak to other parents like me. This was the whole purpose of writing the book. So other parents could benefit from my experience. I embraced the opportunity and talked about being in their shoes not so long ago and what I had learnt. I wanted to give them hope that their child can achieve much more than they ever hoped for. Independent travelling for example was something I could never envisage for my son when he was school age. The unpredictability of public transport and people were a concern. Being prepared for these situations is possible. 

One question I was asked was when and how did you allow him to travel independent. It wasn’t a quick decision I said, I waited for the right time which ultimately is the right time for me as much as it is for him. I prepared for the inevitable if it did happen. For example, if the bus broke down, I gave him clear written instructions and we practiced it. One day he forgot his bus pass. He called me telling me he had forgotten it. It was fine as he had some money on him to pay for the bus. He had a backup plan. 

Most of all though it was hard to let go. We protect our children naturally and I’m glad to say that most people and situations you can prepare for. Some things you can’t prepare for, things don’t always go to plan. They will encounter this and as long as they are prepared and safe and can call you in an emergency you can let go.

I spoke to some of the parents afterwards and heard some inspiring stories about siblings. My daughter has been a tower of strength for her brother and shouldered some of the pressures when he was growing up. Autism is part of their life, and they unconsciously embrace it. They are the inspiring young people, integral for their impact on their brothers and sisters. 

I am hoping to speak at other venues moving forward to share what I can and help parents in any way possible. In the meantime, I have been invited back to the school with my son this time who has been asked to give a speech on his experience since leaving school to the other children.

I will let you know how that goes.  In the meantime, have a great Christmas and New Year.

All the best
Philomena

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